Dating Violence:

How to Stop Being Abusive In a Relationship

Intro	Healthy vs. Abusive Relationships
What Is Dating Violence?	How to Leave an Abusive Relationship
Dating Violence Quizzes	How to Help a Friend In an Abusive Relationship
How to Stop Being Abusive	Resources

It can be very hard to recognize or admit that you're having trouble behaving well in a relationship.

Some things you might feel if you're having problems include:

• Anger
• Jealousy
• Feeling out of control
• Wanting to hurt your partner
• Something your partner does makes you feel violent
• You feel like you need to control your partner

If you're experiencing these feelings or acting abusive towards your partner, it's a sign that you're having a problem, and you need help.

I'm behaving in an abusive or unhealthy way in a relationship - what should I do?

First of all, it's excellent that you recognize that you are having trouble behaving well in a relationship. It's very important that you seek help so that these behaviors won't become a lifelong pattern. You need to talk with someone who can understand you and help you gain control over your emotions and your behavior. Speak with a trusted adult such as your health care provider, a school guidance counselor, or a therapist. Check out the resources section for more information.

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Written by the YMH Staff at Children's Hospital Boston

Updated: 6/30/2011