Staying Safe at Parties

As fun as parties may be, they can also get out of control. This guide will help you think ahead before you head out to a party and know what to do if things get out of hand.

How do I keep myself safe at a party?

It’s a good idea to tell your parents or an adult where you’ll be before you leave the house.
It’s helpful to go to a party with friends who you know are responsible.
Keep an eye out for signs of risk like a lot of alcohol or drug use. If you see things that make you uncomfortable, get your group of friends together and leave.
It’s okay for you to leave, even if your friends are not ready. If you feel awkward leaving, you can say you don’t feel well, or that your parents want you to come home.

What should I know about drugs and alcohol?

People who are drunk or high often make bad decisions such as getting in a fight. Alcohol and drugs affect everyone differently, so even someone you know well could act violent. People who have been drinking or taking drugs can’t think clearly. Make sure that you aren’t pressuring someone into something (like having sex or taking drugs with you) that they or you will regret later. If someone pressures you to drink or take drugs, have some responses ready to help you refuse.

How can I be sure that no one has spiked my drink?

It is possible that someone at a party might think it would be funny to get you drunk, and spike your drink with alcohol or another drug. Although you may not be able to tell if a drink has been tampered with, if something doesn’t look or smell right to you, don’t drink it. When you’re at a party, always get your own drink. If you put your drink down and accidentally forget about it, just pour it out and get another one.

How can I get home safely?

Never leave with strangers
If you are walking, arrange to walk with a friend
Never drive if you have been drinking alcohol or using marijuana or other drugs
Never get in a car with another driver who has been drinking alcohol or using marijuana or other drugs
If you need help getting home, call your parents or another adult, take public transportation, or take a taxi

What can I do to develop a safety plan?

Developing a safety plan is one way to help you stay safe in many situations. Here are some tips:
Tell your parents or other adult where you are going, who you will be with, and when you will be back
Carry money, a phone card, or a cell phone in case you need to make an emergency phone call. Don't forget to keep emergency numbers and the phone number of a taxi service in your wallet or backpack or program them into your cell phone
Stay in well-lit public places
Stick with another person or a group of your friends
Be aware of strangers. If you talk to them, don't volunteer information about yourself
Agree on a code word to use on the phone with your family so they know you need help

Written by the CYWH and YMH Staff at Children's Hospital Boston

Updated: 12/18/2008

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